Link for Barb Gonyo art website

[BarbGonyo]

Art has always been my passion. I have used my art to create both book covers and would like to share my other paintings with anyone who would be interested. http://web.me.com/barbaragonyo

[williamsmith]

sounds good to me

[riyanjason]

I do not believe that GSA is anything but incest and am very surprised that you do not hear more about the "victims" of GSA...the spouses, the children, other family memebers. People who experience this type of attraction after being reunited need to seek intense counseling before they suffer the consequence of tearing apart families because of their selfishness and lack of willingness to prevent such an act.

[JJstruggle]

Riyan,

This section of the forum isn't visited as often as the reunion issues section. If you post this there as a new thread, you will have more response from members of the forum. It sounds to me like you have been close to someone involved with GSA. I for one can understand your feelings of thinking that people who experience this are selfish. I, myself have been called selfish so many times I can't even count! Before this happened to me, I would have felt just like you do! Believe me, I have always been a very giving, un-selfish person my whole life. I even helped start a non-profit org in my community for kids that have been abused. You will find many people on this forum who lived very normal, happy, unselfish lives before GSA happened for them. I say this only to point out that GSA is something that has such a strong pull on the people that it affects, that it causes people to do things that they wouldn't normally do.

Please read this forum and see all of the torment and guilt that the people involved do feel for their loved ones. You may be surprised at what you find. Most of the time, these people are very distraught, they feel horrible about the feelings that they are feeling, yet somehow need the bonding and closeness of the person that they have the GSA feelings for. It is a very difficult road to travel! I for one would never want to cause anybody in my family pain or hurt. I would jump in front of a moving train for any of them! Still would, even after all of the hurtful words and actions that have played out over the last three years.

You may find a little bit of understanding for what happens to people who are reunited and why if you read some of the posts. The founder of the site, Barb Gonyo does a great job of explaining this.

If you feel like talking, there are some really great people here.
Best wishes!
JJ

[Victor]

Barb...such talent! Funny tho...I'm also an artist. I work in oils and pastells. I tend to stick to landscapes (in 88 I did a series of oil paintings depicting some of the more popular castles of Germany....Der Wasser Schloss, Lichtenstein, Heidlberg (Charlemain's castle), and Neuschwannstein (Ludwig II's grand pallace in the Alps). I'm currently looking for a new project....was thinking since I live on the Mississippi, perhaps some river view landscapes.

[Victor]

Originally Posted by riyanjason

I do not believe that GSA is anything but incest and am very surprised that you do not hear more about the "victims" of GSA...the spouses, the children, other family memebers. People who experience this type of attraction after being reunited need to seek intense counseling before they suffer the consequence of tearing apart families because of their selfishness and lack of willingness to prevent such an act.

Riyanjason, incestual victimization can only happen when one of the parties is a recognized authoritarian to the victim. This "authoritarian position" can only be created in a family setting, when the victim is brought up in a submissive role under the authoritarian rule of his or her abuser. In GSA no such role has ever been established between the couple due to separation from these otherwise athoritarian figures very early in their life. Meeting for the first time as adults, both are on equal footing, each capable of concenting freely without a predisposed psychological coersion into a sexual liaison.

I agree with you that the incestual victimization of a child by his or her familial authoritarians (adult or elder family members) is very wrong, but that has nothing to do with GSA. A "parent" --mother, father, aunt, uncle, etc. --is a role, having no real meaning in the genetic definition, though most of the time this role is played by someone with a genetic kinship to the person in the role of child. Outsiders to the GSA phenomenon tend to misuse the name of these roles as we apply them to GSA. If you would reserve the terms "mother" and "father" to refer only the child's nuturers who played the role of parents in their upbringing, and "brother" and "sister" to refer only to the other children raise with the child, then you will reaize that "incest" --the victimization of a family member -- can only happen within the social family unit, not in the genetic family unit. Incest, then, has nothing to do with blood relations, and everthing to do with socio-familial relationships.