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WHen the water Looks Just fine...........
Dear All,
Today I opened my email and was confronted with a very abusive letter. THis person has been lurking on our site for some time, has been in re union and then suddenly things got "seriously effed up " His words NOT mine He accused me of being a hypocrite, because even though I myself had not crossed the line, he had seen that in some instances I support and encourage people to Do what I myself have not done. It seems that at some point, in his early stages, he had seen that I had, for want of a better word "endorsed" someone elses situation , and there for took it as a go ahead for himself. He also questioned as to why I would ever encourage anyone to cross the line, when things can go so horribly wrong ( He has not shared any details at all with me, nor have I ever heard from him before ) Rather than reply to him directly, I thought I would attempt to explain myself here, because it occured to me that perhaps others had thought along smilar lines , and he reads this Forum anyway. (((((I would like to say that depite the fact that you personally attacked me, abused and swore at me, I am not at all angry or upset with you...You are looking to find someone to BLAME, and Since I am vocal and outspoken and present myself as someone who has some idea as to what goes on, I am the PERFECT person for you to blame...))))). I will attempt an "analogy " to try and explain my personal views on GSA, even though when I read my own posts, I think I have made it clear. GSA can be compared to Water in a Bucket If you are parched, Water is what you NEED and you will want to GuLP it down but until you taste that water you dont Know if it is Fresh, in which case it will "Hydrate" you or Whether it is Salty In which case it will surely DE Hydrate you. To KNOW for sure , if the water will be good for you , you have to ask the question. From where did this water come ? And the answer to this question can actually be found by “Observing” the water. Put it into a Transparent GLASS Smell it Hold it up to the light. Can you see any floaty bits, Is it Clear or it slightly murky ? When you can KNOW without drinking that it is PURE, go ahead and take a sip. If you find the taste is slightly off DON’T A person who is very very thirsty will attempt to get relief even from Sea water.....Despite the taste alerting them to Danger, they will drink it anyway. More Later…
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Senior Member
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Plymouth, MA
Posts: 197
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I hate GSA
Last edited by cap : 10-13-2009 at 05:26 AM. |
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Senior Member
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Plymouth, MA
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I hate GSA
Last edited by cap : 10-13-2009 at 05:26 AM. |
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Junior Member
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Stockholm, Sweden
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Hi you unknown person who mailed LS.
I can only speak for myself but when I, as a newcomer on this forum was asking for advice (or looking for advice in the posts) I chose to listen to those who said what I wanted to hear. Those who said otherwise, I chose to ignore. Since my gsa was so strong, I wanted to cross the line and wished that others would advise me to do it! I'm not saying it is so for you but I do not think that it is only me who made this mistake. You do not like that LL gives some the advice to "go for it". I think it is a strength that the moderator give different advice based on the different situations we are in. If she had not done so; if she always had advised everyone not to cross the line then I had stopped listening to her advice. I myself don’t think that it is anything wrong to have a GSA-relationship if the circumstances are right. I hope you will be all right! Last edited by mallu : 12-21-2009 at 01:44 PM. |
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~ Red Alert ~
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It has been once again brought to my attention that sometimes people read one of my posts and take it as an affirmation to ACT in a certain way in their own situations. Please NOTE : Lost Sister writes personalized posts to specific people MOST of this time... If I encourage one couple , then DO NOT Take it that I am encouraging YOU and conversely If I ~discourage~ another couple, I am not discouraging YOU ! I have been asked to clarify this once again, and I feel really BAD in case anybody has based Their decisions on MY ADVICE to another person... PLEASE PLEASE Dont do that.... I try to"tailor" my posts and advice for the Individuals involved, taking into account the BIG picture external to GSA and the underlining emotional issues DRIVING GSA... I humbly beg forgiveness If I have inadvertently caused anyone further or additional grief, I aim to soothe and settle peoples emotions NOT to further conflict them. Lots of LOVE LoSt SiSter
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edited by cap
Last edited by cap : 03-21-2010 at 10:43 AM. |
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