to meet or not to meet - Page 2

lostsister · 02-07-2010, 03:18 AM

Mermaid, LoVe

Are you sure you are not perhaps forcing things a bit,
for the sake of getting FiNaL Resolution ??

Why not let your Hubby act according to how and when he feels to do so, rather than encouraging /facilitating what he is clearly not ready for ?

mermaid · 02-08-2010, 05:32 AM

yeah, it's all cool. I told him what I've arranged and he's fine. Don't think he will come along but that's ok. I just felt so bad for her is she found out later that we had gone and not got in touch.
I realised that right now he feels exactly as sexually attracted to her as he wants to and I think he's equally scared that meetign would dissipate that as inflame it so probably best not to meet....I just have to find a good way of explaining that to her....very well practiced in explaining away his decisions! he always runs away from any occassion including human contact...mostly I facilitate that but when I have pushjed hium to get involved he has always been glad and thanked me!
and cap;
"Many families could be destroyed, many neices & nephews could lost there uncles & Aunts, and children could become estranged from thier parents. " - not in our case! I wish there was. noi relationship exist and there is little possibility of them occuring cos there's really only us, h/s and our kids......and out kids would NEVER be estranged from either of us (unless they choose it) no matter what happened.
thanks for words of wisdom
m

02-07-2010, 03:18 AM	#11
lostsister Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 336	Careful of the CONTROL Factor Mermaid, LoVe Are you sure you are not perhaps forcing things a bit, for the sake of getting FiNaL Resolution ?? Why not let your Hubby act according to how and when he feels to do so, rather than encouraging /facilitating what he is clearly not ready for ? __________________ ~ L o V e is its own R E W A R D ~

02-08-2010, 05:32 AM	#12
mermaid Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Northern England, UK Posts: 296	yeah, it's all cool. I told him what I've arranged and he's fine. Don't think he will come along but that's ok. I just felt so bad for her is she found out later that we had gone and not got in touch. I realised that right now he feels exactly as sexually attracted to her as he wants to and I think he's equally scared that meetign would dissipate that as inflame it so probably best not to meet....I just have to find a good way of explaining that to her....very well practiced in explaining away his decisions! he always runs away from any occassion including human contact...mostly I facilitate that but when I have pushjed hium to get involved he has always been glad and thanked me! and cap; "Many families could be destroyed, many neices & nephews could lost there uncles & Aunts, and children could become estranged from thier parents. " - not in our case! I wish there was. noi relationship exist and there is little possibility of them occuring cos there's really only us, h/s and our kids......and out kids would NEVER be estranged from either of us (unless they choose it) no matter what happened. thanks for words of wisdom m __________________ mermaid

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